Dealing with Birth Trauma

Welcome back to Kiwi Birth Tales and thanks as always for following.

This post is all about dealing with a difficult / traumatic birth experience and the advice all comes from other Mums who have submitted their experiences on Instagram. As always, I’m not here to advocate for anything in particular and am happy to recommend everyones suggestions in the hope that it could help you in some way, however when it comes to birth trauma I will always recommend finding a professional to talk with or getting advice from your Doctor on how to process / next steps.

Traumatic birth experiences don’t always have to be the maximum level of emergency / life or death situation, trauma could mean something different to me than it does to you and so on. If you experienced a birth that didn’t go how you expected and you have unresolved traumatic feelings towards your birth, you are not alone. I hope regardless of your birth experience you are able to find some comfort in the below suggestions and perhaps a coping technique that works for you.

All my love,
Jordyn xx

Dealing with a difficult birth - Follower Suggestions:

  • Seeing a Counsellor who specialises in birth trauma.

  • Talking about your experience with people you trust (more than once).

  • Requesting birth notes (about Mother and Baby).

  • Make a formal complaint (where appropriate).

  • Have your birth partners / support give you their experience and talk about how they viewed what happened.

  • Find a support group with similar stories.

  • Leaning on family.

  • Follow up appointment with Midwife / OBGYN / GP to run through what happened and why.

  • Education and support before going into second birth.

  • Understanding and accepting that the birth experience you had wasn’t a result of your effort or education and is out of your control.

  • Giving yourself permission to grieve for the birth you wanted but didn’t get.

  • Discuss options to avoid the same thing happening again with next birth.

  • Listening to other experiences through resources like Kiwi Birth Tales and other Birth Podcasts.

  • Finding a support group of other Mums to talk with.

  • Crying (you’re not weak if you need to cry).

  • Writing about the experience (privately or on a blog).

  • Support during the early days after birth for things around the house and help with baby.

  • Faith and prayer.

  • Find an understanding Midwife for next birth who allows you to talk about your experience and helps to form a plan for the next birth.

  • Don’t compare your birth experience to others.

  • Time.

Jordyn Gregory